A Roman In London (from Tokyo)

In response to:Don't play Christmas music

Mon, 24 Aug 2009 12:27:41 +0200

No no no, you've got it all wrong. If you feel this way then you obviously haven't been to any proper Christmas parties in London! That's what I've been doing for the last 3 years and I live in Bath. It only comes once a year, get together with your family and have some Christmas party fun Roman!

In response to:It wasn't love

Sun, 16 Dec 2007 19:58:59 +0100

Roman,
Hi, It's N in old capital in JP, donno whether u remember me or not, we talked on the phone a couple of times 3 years ago after you had broken up w/ ur ex.
It's been a while since I saw this page last time. I am a little bit surprised to know how you are doing since then.
As we talked b4, it seems we have quite a similarity, type of guys, losing a big love, struggling depression and now it is manic depressive symptom =(
I am, however, happy that you found a job you like =)
By recalling my experience, it is better take rest you need before it get too sick. Taking a few days off or fresh air in your countryside are good ideas.
Well, it is getting long.
I just wanted to leave a little note telling that I dropped here =)
If you remenber me i am glad, and even if not, never mind. and i am happy to talk anytime if you want.
As you know, you are not alone, OK?
well then,

In response to:Is this love?

Thu, 07 Jun 2007 03:12:11 +0200

Thanks...yeah, I should be careful. I don't want to be hurt by anyone again.

In response to:Is this love?

Wed, 06 Jun 2007 15:22:00 +0200

Hi, Please watch it, it might not be love. Just be careful dear.

In response to:Trying to cheer me up

Sun, 02 Apr 2006 18:16:14 +0200

Do tell ! ....were you a fish again ??
What happened with Kevin ? Chris ?? etc.
Hope you had fun in London and good luck with the new job.

In response to:Trying to cheer me up

Sun, 02 Apr 2006 16:42:47 +0200

Are you going to continue your blogging or not in new role?
Hope you will find time for it.
Wish you all the best for new life and career.
-WOMANIST

In response to:Don't play Christmas music

Tue, 27 Dec 2005 18:34:36 +0100

Hi, Lauren. Thanks for your advice. Actually, I enjoyed Christmas my way. It was not bad to spend the special day as I liked. Hopefully, I'll be in London next Christmas.

In response to:Don't play Christmas music

Tue, 27 Dec 2005 18:29:26 +0100

Hi, Anna! One of my friends in London sent me a photo of the street in London, which made me miss the fantastic city a lot. Probably I'll visit London this winter...I can't help thinking about it.

In response to:Don't play Christmas music

Fri, 09 Dec 2005 20:24:19 +0100

I think it's good to enjoy Christmas your way, whatever you think and beleive about Christmas itself.
I've stopped singing too...maybe for the better!!!
Best wishes

In response to:Don't play Christmas music

Fri, 02 Dec 2005 17:03:57 +0100

The shops in central London are always lovely at Christmas......Harrods..Selfridges..Fortnum and Mason..Liberty..etc. The atmosphere is quite exciting also.....but it gets soooooo busy. It is cold and wet and windy here at present with scattered snow around the country.

You enjoy your Christmas and be kind to yourself.

Best wishes.

In response to:Don't play Christmas music

Tue, 29 Nov 2005 13:48:42 +0100

Hi, Anna. Your advice must be right...well, I'll be working as a party waitress this Christmas. BTW, I gave up going to London this winter, which makes me miss the city a lot. Are there lots of illuminations on the street? As I just know the city in summer, I really want to know how it is in winter.

In response to:Don't play Christmas music

Thu, 24 Nov 2005 20:44:41 +0100

Not too much pressure then !

Why don't you start to live life by your own rules from now on.......who wants to follow the crowd.....you will meet lots of interesting people and have lots of adventures when the time is right :)

P.S. JUST KEEP AWAY FROM THR PHEROMONE GUY !!!

In response to:Karaoke is effective against mental fatigue!?

Sun, 20 Nov 2005 14:47:29 +0100

Yes, I loved the karaoke in Shinjuku, and the power of music is wonderful...it was amazing for me to sing Oasis in Tokyo!!
I like the Japanese way, and also the english way is nice too.
Have a good week!
お仕事頑張ってください
ではまたね

In response to:Karaoke is effective against mental fatigue!?

Sat, 19 Nov 2005 13:39:45 +0100

I'm happy to know that an English can enjoy karaoke just as a Japanese do. In a karaoke room, you can feel as if the people in the room were sharing the same feeling...in my opinion, European people dance more and better than Japanese people do, and dancing together help people to be feel relaxed and connected. Anyway, the power of music is just great.

In response to:Karaoke is effective against mental fatigue!?

Sat, 19 Nov 2005 12:48:04 +0100

Yes!
The idea of karaoke in England seems very different to Japan's karaoke box.
I enjoyed karaoke in Shunjuku last year and loved it, despite my poor singing, it relaxed me, and brought all of us friends together...much healthier. It was a stress-relief for me, certainly.

In response to:Being afraid of loving someone

Tue, 08 Nov 2005 12:17:54 +0100

Your situation seems to be very similar to that of mine two years ago. I was scared of being without him, and I even thought that I would die without him, seriously...

And I was actually about to die when we broke up, but after struggling for more than a year, I'm alive, happily. The difference between you and me is that you already realise that you should be independent again, so how about try that now?

As I wrote here several times, a man runs away from a woman when he is confident that he is loved by her seriously. I hope you do well with your "ex" and get back your independent life again.

In response to:Being afraid of loving someone

Sat, 05 Nov 2005 23:23:33 +0100

God this blog is so me. Ive been with my about to be (his terms not mine) ex for two years . I used to be independant, emotionally very strong, alive, happy, fun loving. But he has taken this from me.
I fell for him very hard and fast. I am so madly in love with him that i have let him be the controller in the relationship. I have always let him walk all over me because i knew he would leave me ifi stood up to him and he had taken my independance away so much that i need him.

I just wanted to be with him as much as possible.

I am scared of being without him. I am scared to think that i will never see him again. I am scared that i will never see his family again and he will not be in my lfie again. Most of all i am scared that i will get over him one day and i will get my independance and self esteem back. Then one day i may fall in love again and it will happen all over again.

I cant do anything by myself, I depend on him completely. Before him (two years ago) i was independent and strong. But i am so scared of falling in love with someone and repeating the same mistake again. I am so scared that i will never feel this way about anyone again. Or meet anyone that i love so much., or that i fancy so much or that i adore so much and that cares about me as much as he does me. Love is shit.

In response to:Being afraid of loving someone

Sat, 05 Nov 2005 09:20:58 +0100

ohayou~~
Yes, I used to be in Japan, and that was VERY special to me, ...still is!
You know my blog? thank you...do visit again, anytime.
I'm glad that London is a special time for you...treasure and enjoy it. Many things become special in time, and realising at the time, (as you have), is even more special.
Have a nice weekend.
yoishumatsuwo~~

In response to:Being afraid of loving someone

Sat, 05 Nov 2005 02:37:25 +0100

I know your blog! You used to be in Japan, right? The timing...I also think it is important, since some special things in my life happened in the right timing. Living in London was one of the special things which changed my life recently.

In response to:Being afraid of loving someone

Fri, 04 Nov 2005 17:54:03 +0100

yes, everything should happen in it's natural, right time, if we seek someting special, at least I believe so.
but the timing is everything!
interesting blog.
take care

In response to:The miracle of a pheromone?

Fri, 04 Nov 2005 16:56:52 +0100

I've seen some perfumes which were supposed to have pheromones, and I was sceptical about the effect. But some people must have a pheromone...I just can't explain what happened to me that day, without the effect of it.

Do you want to be trapped by his magical power?:) Acaually, the friend of mine there was about to let me know his number later, but I refused it. It was unusual for me to do so, but I knew that knowing his number would be the beginning of the end.

In response to:The miracle of a pheromone?

Tue, 01 Nov 2005 11:06:07 +0100

We all have pheromones and tend to 'click' with different people. You can even supposedly buy the stuff bottled now but that is cheating somewhat and I am not sure if it works.

This guy must certainly have sex appeal !! lol .....what did you say his telephone number was ??

In response to:An e-mail from London

Thu, 27 Oct 2005 19:41:18 +0200

I finally replied to him...seems you're right. I realised that I have a special feeling for him because I was nervous and thought a lot about what to write about. It never happens when I write to other "friends".

One of the reasons why I've got lots of male friends is that my ex-fiance used to let me see them, telling me not to stick to him and to see various people to learn something. He trusted me and didn't feel any jealousy for my dates. He was really a nice guy...

In response to:An e-mail from London

Mon, 24 Oct 2005 18:56:13 +0200

and all the while he's keeping you 'dangling'...

You are doing the right thing by getting on with your life by seeing different people and trying different things....try not to allow this to be a priority so that you protect your feelings either way :)

I must say , your culture is fascinating and soooo different !

In response to:An e-mail from London

Mon, 24 Oct 2005 18:44:25 +0200

I haven't replied to him yet, actually. I'm not sure if I want to or not. I have to admit that I expected his reply when I mailed him, but at the time, I was sure that he wanted to finish our relationship. I thought I could accept it, and I mailed him since I didn't want to end it badly...but he says he didn't intend to end it, so I'm confused.

In response to:An e-mail from London

Wed, 19 Oct 2005 11:14:04 +0200

The e-mails will of course keep the emotional bond (at least from your perspective) going. It is up to you to decide whether this is a help or a hinderance to your life now and in the future. I have held on too long to this situation in the past.
When you contacted him to say "Goodbye", perhaps unconciously you were longing for him to say "Hello".....and he did.....whether that was out of guilt or shame or just wanting to stay friends (incase he wants to visit Tokyo?) or not letting it end badly ?
What are your feelings for him now....sounds to me as if it has moved on from convenience.

Take care.

In response to:Being alone(2)

Tue, 18 Oct 2005 19:53:25 +0200

Very interesting article. It was like my past love with HIM...I'm writing about "obsessive love" now.

In response to:Can't believe the coincidence......

Mon, 17 Oct 2005 17:48:12 +0200

Thinking about one year ago, I recovered miraculously. I wrote a suicide note several times at the time! I don't want to even remember it. You must be right, I also think I can't forget HIM completely, but I hope he will become just a memory.

In response to:Being alone(2)

Sun, 16 Oct 2005 19:47:14 +0200

Interesting article on love...

http://women.timesonline.co.uk/article/0,,18030-1816329,00.html

In response to:Being alone(2)

Sun, 16 Oct 2005 18:47:58 +0200

They say the sign of good mental health is when you can spend time alone and feel content to do so. You must eat regularly and healthily in order to keep your energy levels up and your state of mind positive : )